Hi, my name is Kalena, as in Kuh-lay-nuh
I am a libra, and I like video games, tv shows, and comics
This is a general and multi-fandom blog
The First Time the Entire World got “Who’s That Pokemon” wrong.
"your homework still isn’t done? what have you been doing this whole time??"
i hope everybody who reblogged this wacky hilarious text post fails all their classes and finds themselves stuck in a dead-end minimum wage job for the rest of their life
i’m so very glad tumblr is popularizing poor work ethic and laziness. what a great thing. i guess that means more income for people who actually take their lives seriously
f...ake pronouns? what exac tly would count as like.. fake pronouns, if you didnt mind me asking?
Like ok pronouns are used to label or identify ones gender.
So “”real”” pronouns would be like:
Xe or Xi (I’m not as familiar with this sorry)
Fake pronouns are things that DONT label a gender.
So things like:
What the fuck is that?? Pronouns are not an accessory. They’re not something to be used because they’re cute. They’re used to be more comfortable with yourself.
Even more common ones like fae/faeself I am SUPER iffy with.
And since I’ll probably get an ask about if this applies to otherkin, it depends.
I have two friends that are botkin. One used xi and one uses they. It’s easier for them and makes them comfortable.
Using fake pronouns is disrespectful to the transgender community.
woah hey friend!! i understand where you’re coming from with the pronoun argument, but when it comes down to it it’s a bit different.
It’s MOST DEFINITELY wrong for cis people to use nonbinary pronouns (regardless of how recently they’ve been made), but for nonbinary people it can absolutely be a way of being more comfortable with themselves. I have a friend who struggled with finding fitting pronouns and ended up finding that ray/rays pronouns fit ray best and helped ray feel most comfortable with rayself.
These newer themed pronouns that have come about recently have been under a lot of scrutiny in the nonbinary community. The biggest problem is that some cis people ARE using them as accessories. This has translated into thinking nonbinary people are also just using them as accessories. This is a HUGE problem because these are nonbinary specific pronouns like ze/zir, hir/hir, ey/em, etc. This means that these pronouns are for nonbinary people to use and only them. There are so many different kinds because nonbinary people come in so many different shapes and forms, and thats why it’s important to have so many options for pronouns.
Because of the wide range of nonbinary people, many aren’t able to find existing pronouns they feel fit them. I have many people come to me asking about this, and one of the pieces of advice i give most often is this: “don’t be afraid to create your own.”
Being nonbinary can be scary, unlike being transgender we don’t have even loosely defined boxes of identity to look at when identifying as a new gender. We have to figure out what and who we are ourselves. Some nonbinary people DO use more binary gendered pronouns, identities, and presentations, my boyfriend being one of them. And that’s totally okay! But some also aren’t able to find solace in existing pronouns and sometimes even genders.
Going back to the earlier argument about nonbinary people using these pronouns; Pronouns aren’t used specifically to label ones gender, they are used to label ones self and help them feel more comfortable. They are used for the comfort of the person. I use they/them pronouns. This does show that I am nonbinary, but it doesn’t show my gender identity. All it shows is that I don’t identify on the binary scale. I identify as genderqueer. There are agender people who use female pronouns. There are genderfluid people who use male pronouns. These don’t dictate what gender they are, it dictates the pronouns they are comfortable with.
I know I’m preaching to the choir about a lot of this stuff, and I’m sorry for that. But in short, you should be respectful of all the multitudes of pronouns because for a lot of people these newer themed pronouns are not just accessories, they are pronouns that help them feel more comfortable with themselves.
This…was actually very helpful.
Yes I am in the transgender community but I’ll be the first to say I don’t know everything about it. I’m still learning.
This all made a lot of sense and I understand the whole argument a lot better.
I guess I just got grouped in with the “Cis people shouldn’t use these” which, yknow, they shouldn’t “so nonbinary people can’t use them either”
But I do understand. Not everyone will fit into he/she/them/xe/ect.
Even though I understand gender isn’t black and white I guess I just needed to understand the rest of the colors a little better.
Thank you for being so respectful and for helping out!
have you ever had the urge to spoil somebody and buy them everything they’ve ever wanted because they are just so wonderful and you love them a lot and they deserve all of the nice things??? then u realize u are broke and sad